This is a hard one for most of us. When we’re not fully appreciated for what we bring to the table or for our contribution. It can be something as simple as not being thanked for supporting someone or maybe it’s being denied year after year for that award or promotion that everyone thinks you deserve. Maybe your partner doesn’t see how hard you’re trying to balance work and family.
Being seen is one of our fundamental needs and it’s really painful when that acknowledgment you seek doesn’t come. What do you do? This is where you ask yourself if you see and acknowledge yourself for having done your best. And taking power from that.
For those of us who are really shy about seeking attention, sometimes we just need to speak up. Ask, “did you find that helpful” or “did you enjoy your meal and experience”. Fill yourself up with the compliments.
If you’re extroverted and have no trouble expressing your needs, this time try looking inward for validation. Give yourself what you need.
Either way, getting out of that place where you’re feeling stuck is what helps in this situation, chef.
Chef’s, in general, are underappreciated and often misunderstood. It takes a certain temperament (Tempura-ment) to batter and fry yourself 16 hours a day seven a week. If you are not a restaurant worker hug one, and if you are, remind the world that you deserve nothing less than the best for bringing joy to peoples hearts and stomaches.
Well said, Chef!