Love Letters to Chefs

Back in May, I shared the above framework that explains how confidence goes hand in hand with wellbeing.

For those of us who are heart-centred leaders in this industry, it can be so easy to get stuck in this dynamic.

You find yourself in a never-ending loop.

This dynamic between your confidence and your wellbeing can persist infinitely.

It is frustrating because see the part you are playing in perpetuating this.

But it can also lead to more serious consequences like burnout.

The good news is that you now see how that dynamic is created, therefore, you have the power to change your experience.

On Monday’s webinar, I address what you can do to step outside of this pattern.

And have more of both: confidence and wellbeing.

This training is for women in Hospitality who are leaders or aspiring leaders (BOH or FOH) or women who run their own food business.

I would love to have you join me, or for you to send this invitation to the women on your teams who will appreciate this teaching. Please note, they will have to sign up individually.

The deadline to sign up is tomorrow. (And I encourage you to sign up even if you cannot attend. You will get a link to the replay).

On today’s LIVE video I continue to lead up to the theme of on my upcoming webinar on Monday: confidence and wellbeing.

But before I share how you can truly project confidence, I ask you to consider your assumptions of whether you need to project confidence.

What could the alternative be?

And more importantly, how can that approach benefit in your role as a female leader in Hospitality?

Join me on Instagram as I go LIVE at 2pm UK.

“I love what you guys do!”

Quite often this is the feedback I get for Love Letters to Chefs. I appreciate those comments, but sometimes wonder if I should make the point that there are no guys here, just one girl running this platform on her own, and doing it part time.

This happens in the privacy of a DM, so I do not expend energy correcting those assumptions.

But that might not be the case for you.

If you work on a team, it can be highly uncomfortable to have your capabilities undermined or questioned in front of others.

How you might choose to respond is one thing: whether you choose to brush it off, ignore it, or respond in a way that sets things right.

But the bigger thing to be aware of is what you make it mean about you. 

If the lack of acknowledgement makes you want to prove yourself, you can get stuck in a loop of seeking approval.

To the detriment of your wellbeing, even.

Because no amount of doing will ever be enough to prove your capabilities.

Next Monday at 2pm UK (9am EST), I am hosting a webinar for female leaders in Hospitality. What you will learn is how your confidence and wellbeing are so closely linked, and how one affects the other.

Join me by reserving your place before Sunday 16th.

Next Monday, I am hosting a webinar on how building your confidence supports your wellbeing as a female leader in Hospitality.

These are my learnings from my own work with women in our industry and hearing of their experiences with burnout, overwhelm, stress, etc.

I could clearly see patterns of how their confidence played a big part in causing this.

Which is not surprising.

I know there is a lot of pressure on women working in male-dominated industries to look confident, in order to earn the trust of others.

This is the case even when you might not have all the support you require.

And I know of just how much pressure you put on yourself to make the most of the opportunities you have been given.

During this training I share my insights that link the level of your confidence with the level of your wellbeing. 

And more importantly, what you can do differently, to support both of those things, i.e., improve your confidence and the quality of your life.

Please sign up here before the deadline on Sunday the 16th.

This was a powerful realisation from a coachee (outside Hospitality) that I worked with this week.

She had to deliver a training to people outside her socio-economic and ethnic background and felt so undeserving of the opportunity, even though she knew it could lead to so much more for her.

We all do this – and perhaps it is when the stakes are higher that all our worst fears and insecurities come up.

I helped her see that there was no one better than her to do this work.

And also see the ripple effect of just how much impact her one training could have.

My privilege as a coach is to be able to see your brilliance, when you can only see your shortcomings. And help you find the confidence to bridge the gap between the two.

What could change for you when that happens?

Would you like to find out?

For anyone who is stepping into their next level – whether you are being given a promotion, assigned an event to run or even a new opening to head.

This is the very moment that the self-doubt kicks in, when you fear whether you have it in you to rise up to the challenge.

If this is where you are, here is another thing to consider: that someone else trusts in you, enough to make this opportunity for growth available to you.

If nothing else, lean into that truth.

Self-trust is what you will need to bring to the table.

– Not having your viewpoint seen and heard.
– Being passed over for opportunities
– Not having your authority respected
– Not being appreciated or acknowledged for your achievements

If you are a female leader in Hospitality, you have probably experienced some or all of the above.

From having experienced this myself, I know you try to rise above it, because we have to keep going when all eyes are on us and our performance.

But somehow these things still hurt.

In a way, I am not surprised that we have to go through this. Every day you show up at work you are still disrupting the status quo in some way.

Not giving you acknowledgement is a way of not giving you power.

But what do you make it mean about you? More so, how does this impact your actions, your communication and your thoughts about yourself?

Because that’s the thing you have to watch out for.

This is what I help my coaching clients work on, so that none of the negativity they encounter gets in the way of their brilliance, their qualities and their talents.

If you want to explore how I can support you, then please book your Game Plan Call with me today.

Calling female leaders in Hospitality who want support with resolving a challenge or achieving a goal.

There is not always the space for you to be vulnerable and reach out for support, helping you move forward in your personal and professional life.

Which is why I have opened up opportunities for us to work together.

I coach female Hospitality leaders in overcoming the limitations that prevent their brilliance from shining through: their struggles with confidence, feeling overwhelm and stress, heading towards burnout, not trusting themselves.

Never has what you bring to the table been more needed in our industry. So there is no better time than now to express your full potential.

Sure, those limitations are going to come up every stage of your professional growth.

But when we work together, I guide you to a game plan to help you rise above those obstacles, and bring all of your gifts to your work and to your team.

Are you in? Book a call with me and let’s explore how you can get the support you need.

It might be that you are getting in your own way.

– Not giving yourself permission to rest, from feeling guilty that you have not done enough
– Doing way more than you need to, from feeling like you have to prove yourself
– Not expressing your true values, from fearing the loss of support from others

And now you want to change this dynamic.

But you have no idea how to manage the expectations of others when you have trained them to perceive you a certain way.

And you are tired of not being authentic to yourself.

If you can resonate with this, then I want to reassure you that there is no time like the present to begin boldly expressing your values and also living them in your leadership.

This is not easy to do on your own, but if I can support you, please book a call with me and we can take it from there.

Perhaps this is where you are: you are a female leader in Hospitality who not so long ago landed a great opportunity to lead a team.

But you are struggling with the feeling that you do not have everyone on board with your leadership. That uneasiness prevails in your work, and also carries through to your personal life, where you are not able to really be there for those close to you.

And this plays out in other ways – you are giving mixed messages in your communication and you know you are doing things without conviction.

Which is not earning anyone’s trust.

Here is the thing: you are not fully confident in what you bring to the table as a leader. You are expecting others to reflect that to you. But that is putting the burden on them, but not resulting in you getting that outcome. Moreover, you are not fully focussed on what you wanted to achieve in this role.

If this is you, I can support you in finding that confidence and self-trust in yourself again. But this is not a quick fix.

It requires deep work.

And if you are willing to do it, let’s book a call to find a better way forward for you.

So that you can lead with an assertiveness and purposefulness that gets everyone supporting you. What are you waiting for?